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AITA for not giving in to my neighbors' demands
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AITA for not giving in to my neighbors' demands

Throwaway for reasons. Last year I purchased some property almost sight-unseen at auction. It is 14 acres total and the highlight for me was a farmhouse that hadn't been cared for in quite some time. After getting the property and finalizing all payment I contracted with a surveyor to give me the exact details and to my surprise, there was also a barn, patio, and firepit area that was my property. One weekend a few months ago I walked over to that part of the property and saw that the barn was in very updated shape with electric, water, etc, all having been run up there. In fact, that end of the property was more kept up than the house. Think of it as two ends of a large "L" shape. While I was in the barn a sheriff's car pulled right up, the deputy confronted me. I explained this was my property, etc. A minute later another car pulled up, out came "Ken" and "Barbie". They had called 911 stating there was someone trespassing on their property. I explained the situation to all three of them, the deputy seemed keenly interested, Ken and Barbie kept interrupting me explaining this was their barn, their patio, their everything. I had the surveyors papers with me in a folder. He advised Ken and Barbie that I probably wasn't trespassing and that there'd probably need to be real estate lawyers involved. Two more surveys and two opinions from competing lawyers agreed that this part of the property was indeed mine. Ken and Barbie bought the adjacent property 4 years prior and were under the impression that the disputed area was part of their property. They renovated and turned it into an event center, holding wedding receptions, birthday parties, etc in the barn. Everything they used as part of that business is on my property, multiple surveys have confirmed that. I've been advised that adverse possession does not apply as they've not used it anywhere near long enough to count in my state, and they cannot produce any documentation that indicates they were given any permission from the prior owner in any fashion to use this. I do not want to own or be responsible for an event venue center. I offered to sell them their end of the "L" at what I (and my real estate agent) considered reasonable market value. They said they couldn't possibly afford it. I offered to lease them the property in exchange for a percent of gross revenue + them holding all insurance and liability. They said they couldn't afford to run the business that way. Their last offer was that I would receive a few hundred dollars a month, which would barely cover insurance alone, to say nothing of upkeep, and I said no. Ken and Barbie explained they already had multiple bookings for the spring and summer and needed the property or else they would have to return deposits. I remain steadfast that I want them to hold the insurance and pay me a lease or else it'll just sit there. AITA?

Elise Dubois
AITA for telling my neighbor to mind her business and leave me alone?
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AITA for telling my neighbor to mind her business and leave me alone?

I bought a portable washing machine online and it was delivered to my apartment. My neighbor saw my package and told me that isn't allowed. I just ignored her and went back inside. She knocks on my door telling me I need to return it because it is against the rules. A day later I get a text from my landlord telling me portable washers aren't allowed and she knows I have one because she has photo evidence (neighbor took a picture before I was able to get to the package). I was outside one day taking groceries out of my trunk when my neighbor saw me and she asks me if I returned it. I did not reply. I asked her to leave me alone. She told me it is not fair if everyone cannot have in-unit laundry and that I need to do the right thing. I again tell her to leave me alone as I walk back inside. She follows me telling me I am being inconsiderate and how the landlord will raise our rent because of me and how rude and selfish I am. I told her I spoke to the landlord about it already and it is none of her concern. She said she lives in the building so it is her concern and she won't let it go until she knows for certain I returned it.

Jonas Bergström
AITA? I told my neighbors they couldn't build a fence if it was on my property when they can't build one on the edge of theirs
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AITA? I told my neighbors they couldn't build a fence if it was on my property when they can't build one on the edge of theirs

My neighbors moved in about 6 months ago. They have a couple young kids and a dog. A week ago, they approached me and asked if I minded if they put up a fence between our yards. I was unsure of why they were asking me until they showed me where it would go. The edge of their yard is on a steep hill and since they couldn't build a fence on the hill they wanted to build it at the top, a couple feet into my yard. I told them absolutely not, and they got defensive and said that they didn't want to build it at the bottom because it would cut off part of their land and that I should just let them build the fence because it was only a couple feet. They asked me again and said that they would cover the cost of the fence if I let them put it on my land, which I was a little confused about because I was never going to pay for it? I still said no but they've been bothering me about it and say I should just let them because I hardly use that part of my yard(except for my blueberry bushes), and a fence will keep their kids and their dogs safer. They keep trying to convince me to do it and I'm starting to wonder if I just should, AITA?

Jonas Bergström
AITA for spending a lot of time on my apartment balcony? It overlooks two neighbors yards and they're mad about their families lacking privacy.
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AITA for spending a lot of time on my apartment balcony? It overlooks two neighbors yards and they're mad about their families lacking privacy.

I have an apartment in a large house that was converted to four apartments. It has a cute balcony off the kitchen, it's decently large, and I spend a lot of time out there. Living in a city, with a tight budget, it's been my dream to have an outdoor space of my own for a while. I've done a lot to make my balcony cozy; two outdoor sofas around a coffee table in the center, a little dining table with chairs in the corner that's also nice to work at. A tiny food-prep minibar over a mini fridge. Cozy heat lamps and a bunch of jar candles. Hanging plants and succulents. A little outdoor bookshelf with closing glass doors to keep the books dry. It's by far the nicest part of my apartment, the rest of the apartment is a cute but very compact studio. A narrow little kitchen, a small bathroom, a hallway, and a small bedroom. No living room or dining room or anywhere indoors to entertain, or just kick back and relax. So I spend a lot of time on the balcony. Even when it's cold or rainy out, the overhang keeps it dry, and the heat lamp warms it My job in software lets us work remotely when we don't have meetings, so I work from my balcony most days. I also like to sit out there for meals and for when I'm having friends over. My apartment building has single family homes on either side, and since I've been living there, both families told me that they don't like how long I spend out on the balcony. The first family's house is positioned in a way that I can see into the windows along the side and the back side of the house. Plus It looks over their back deck. I don't snoop or stare ever, but the dad of the family told me that he doesn't like me being out all the time and being able to look into their bedrooms. He said that his wife was complaining to him about changing in her bedroom and then realizing there had been people who might have seen. I said I wasn't looking and I don't think my friends are the type to either. The second families house is on the other side, I can see their back yard and small pool from the balcony. And the couple who lives there told me they were frustrated how they can't ever enjoy their pool in private, because I'm always out there, often with friends. One time, they asked if I could keep people off my balcony for one day because they wanted a pool party, without a bunch of strangers "watching from above" and I said sure, I don't have any guests that day. I ended up sitting out and reading though, and they got mad at me, I guess there was a miscommunication and they didn't even want me outside. AITA for spending a lot of time on my balcony? I feel like I should be able to enjoy it, it's part of my apartment, but both of the homeowners on either side hate that I'm positioned to see into some windows and their back yards. I'm not a snoop though!

Elise Dubois
WIBTA for not pay my neighbor to get her daughter’s hair professionally “fixed”?
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WIBTA for not pay my neighbor to get her daughter’s hair professionally “fixed”?

My (25F) neighbor (42F) has a daughter Ann (14F) who is a pretty nice kid. She comes over to say hi pretty often and I let her stick around an hour or two some rare days if I’m doing a project she might be interested in. An important thing to note is that I have neon dyed hair that I change frequently and Ann is enamored with it while her mom has commented is “immature.” Ann has asked me a few times to dye her hair and while I expressed that I was of the opinion that teens should be allowed control of their appearance, her mom’s opinions seemed pretty staunch and it might be a better idea not to touch her hair until she’s an adult. Earlier today, I was working in my office when someone banged on my door. It was Ann and her mother. Ann’s hair was a splotchy pink, hands and face stained, and cheeks beet red with tears. Her mom shoves a box into my hands. It was a jar of hair dye and a USPS box with my name on it. I had ordered it last week as my current dye job is on the fade. To make it perfectly clear, I did not give this hairdye to Ann and her mom isn’t accusing me of such. Ann actually admitted to stealing it when the mail for our building came. Ann’s mom screamed at me and told me I encouraged Ann into this behavior and I was gonna pay every red cent to fix it. I said I had the supplies to fix it for Ann (aka get the stains off and even out the color using the remaining dye) but this wasn’t good enough and her mother wants $200 to go to her personal stylist and have it professionally fixed. I think this is beyond ridiculous for a couple reasons. The dye I use is very penetrating and there is QUITE A BIT OF IT in her hair. It isn’t going to just come out clean without significant chemical processing which will doubtlessly cause severe damage to her young hair and scalp. Plus, I hate to sound judgmental, but this woman does not have the hair of someone who has a high dollar stylist. I don’t think she’s even SEEN a stylist since the 2000s. I know this lady pretty well and wouldn’t be shocked if she isn’t demanding a WAY astronomical dollar amount even tho she plans to go buy a box bleach and ruin her daughter’s hair worse than a stylist might. I know that might happen anyway but I really don’t want to be responsible for that. I feel bad though and even my dad says I should just consider handing over the money. WIBTA if I don’t??? EDIT: quick note; I am fully aware that what was done is mail theft but I’m not making an already complicated situation 1000{39ca6eb452c0ce4419cd73a8f3bd18a23fe95ab4febb092bc2ab1b542eeea82f} worse by reporting a 14 year old to the police. EDIT 2: Thank guys for all the amazing responses. I didn’t expect to get any traction so I was shocked by the amount of comments. I have good news! Ann called her dad after she went home last night. I know him but he moved out six months ago so I haven’t seen him lately. He and Ann came by and she apologized profusely for stealing. She’ll be going to stay with her dad at her grandparents house indefinitely. She’s gratefully at the age where she has a choice. Ann was still covered in stains so I offered again to clean her up and her dad was SO glad I offered as he heard I’d offered before and couldn’t imagine me offering a second time. Ann’s hair is now a fun, even, vibrant color of highlighter pink and her skin stains are gone. She’s very happy and since there was no chemical processing involved, her hair is healthy. I gave her and her dad directions to conserve her color and we have a deal that she’s welcome to come back for a touch up or a color change as long as she provides the supplies. When her mom cools off and apologizes, she’s welcome to accompany Ann to see how fun it is as long as she’s nice, but I haven’t heard a peep from her since Ann and her dad left an hour ago and I don’t expect anything lol.

Anya Petrova
AITAH for refusing to stop using my "embarrassing" lunchbox at work?
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AITAH for refusing to stop using my "embarrassing" lunchbox at work?

I (28M) bring my lunch to work every day in a bright blue Pokémon lunchbox. I’ve had it for years, and I don’t think much about it—it’s just the perfect size, keeps my food cold, and honestly, I think it’s kinda fun. Recently, a new coworker, Matt (35M), started making comments about it. At first, it was just joking around—stuff like, “Nice lunchbox, dude, my kid has the same one.” Whatever, I laughed it off. But then he kept bringing it up, saying it was “unprofessional” and that I should “grow up and get a real lunch bag.” I told him I didn’t see the issue and that it’s literally just a lunchbox. But last week, he took it further, telling me in front of our coworkers that it was “weird for a grown man to be carrying around kid stuff.” I told him he should worry less about my lunchbox and more about his own life. Now he’s been acting cold toward me, and a couple of coworkers said I was being too harsh, that he was just “messing around.” But I don’t see why I should change something harmless just because one guy thinks it’s weird.

Elise Dubois
AITA for laughing at my neighbours face after she told me she will get my dogs removed?
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AITA for laughing at my neighbours face after she told me she will get my dogs removed?

I have seen a similar post here, however I have a slightly different issue. I (42f) live outside the big city together with my husband (50) and my daughter (14f). Our house is located further away from most of the houses in the neighbourhood as we also run an equine center. The center is not big and mainly for private clients stabling 18 horses, most of which are quite pricey. My daughters horses are also stabled there. The house, the yard, the fieldsand the arena are on the same territory which is fenced up. Because of this and my husband going to work in the city and my daughter going to school there, I'm often left alone to look after the yard and make sure it is running. We also have staff members that look after the stables and horses and instructors teaching people how to ride, but as I said it is private so the owners normally need to make sure they call us before coming so their horses are ready and to avoid too many people. We only provide services to the people who stable their horses at our place and don't run a riding school since all the horses are private. Also some yard staff also live on top of the stables (there's residential area with kitchen, bathroom, bedroom and TV). Some of my daughters friends also have their own horses which are stabled there, so sometimes they can stay over at ours over the weekends or holidays. Because of all the above and alongside with security cameras, we also have 4 guard dogs (causasian and middle Asian shepards) which we let roam free on the territory during night or when we don't have a lot of owners around. The dogs are familiar with all the kids (my daughter and her friends), the owners and the members of staff working at the yard, in fact they are very friendly to them. However they are guard dogs so they are ready to protect the property. One of the neighbours kids became notorious at trying to climb over the fence to look at the horses, even after multiple warnings not to do that. On Friday they have managed to get through during the evening, so our dogs cornered them and didn't let them move. I have only find out about it after hearing police sirens coming to the property. Apparently they were cornered for a while and since the dogs won't let them out, their mother had to call the police. I took the dogs away so the kids could go and the police officer said I did nothing wrong, since guard dogs are allowed. But the mother has tried to pull the card how traumatised the kids are and the dogs should be taken care of and I laughed and reminded her they have been warned multiple times. She started spreading the rumours and they made it to the local newspaper saying I'm the asshole.

Luca Moretti
WIBTA for reporting my neighbours?
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WIBTA for reporting my neighbours?

A few years ago my partner (27M) and I (27F) bought our first home. I had some savings & a sum of money that had come through from a medical negligence case, & my partner had some inheritance money. We met our neighbours(68M, 65F) the day we started moving furniture in. The woman demanded to know our landlords name so she could "keep in contact with him" & seemed genuinely offended when we told her we owned the house. She made a shitty comment about how she had to work all her life to buy her house, & we were "too young" to deserve a home. I'm waiting on an organ transplant, so work from home in the meantime. One morning I came home from a quick walk around the block with my dog & noticed their son's car parked across my driveway and blocking mine in. I knocked on the door and politely explained that I need to be able to leave at all times in case of a medical emergency, especially if I'm called in for a transplant. The woman snapped at me that she doesn't like people parking next to her because it makes her drive "look messy". Her son did move the car, but called me selfish & a snowflake as he did so. Once she hammered on my door and told me to "shut (my) dog up because he's been barking all day" even though he was at the vet and had been for a few days. About a month after that, I noticed my dog eating something in my garden. I went over to investigate, & saw he had a chocolate bar in his mouth & had eaten most of it. I found a few more empty wrappers scattered along the fence between my yard & the neighbours', immediately called the vet. I'm pretty sure it was my neighbour, but I don't have solid proof so I can't say anything. More than once I've caught her trying to steal our post from the postman. I just don't get *why*. A lot of it is just stuff I need for work (printer paper, sticky notes, etc) with no real monetary value, or medical stuff and non-prescription supplements that are pretty specific to my illness and no use to anyone else. There's literally nothing to be gained from taking it. Her husband is racist and homophobic, and uses the P-word, N-word,& F-word all the time. He also really hates children. Last Halloween he threw a bucket of water over a group of trick-or-treaters. when the parents came over to complain they pretended they weren't home. We've been thinking about extending our kitchen just a little to make it a bit more accessible for me. Somehow in the process, we found our the neighbours' own extention was done illegally. They'd been denied planning permission, but they built it anyway. During the process, they'd also caused some aesthetic damage to our property. A really petty part of me wants to report them, because they've been needlessly nasty for *years*. They would be forced to have it taken down AND pay for the repairs to our house. Tl;Dr WIBTA for reporting my asshole neighbours after enduring years of their shitty behaviour?

Luca Moretti
AITA for suggesting some ways my neighbor could pay me back for the stuff her daughter stole from me?
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AITA for suggesting some ways my neighbor could pay me back for the stuff her daughter stole from me?

I have a neighbor with a 13 year old daughter, who had some friends over to play this week. They ripped up some winter shelters I'd made for the barn cats to build forts in the woods with the wood. I found out afterwards when I saw parts of the shelters missing and drag marks to the forest, and found the children's fort in the forest. I asked their parents for 600 dollars to recoup the cost of materials and labor. They thought that was ridiculous but I said that was what it would cost to have the shelters rebuilt if I bought the materials at bottom dollar and priced my labor at minimum wage. They started saying they didn't have the money and I suggest they return the new xbox they got their daughter because that would be about the right amount of money and it would be fair because she damaged stuff worth that much, to play. So she should lose out on her other toy if she wants to basically steal 600 dollars worth of my shit to play with. They acted like I was whacko for suggesting they return the xbox so I also suggested they stop giving their daughter allowance for however long it takes for that to equal 600 dollars and they told me to go fuck off, that's not a proportional punishment for a child and i had no place trying to tell them how to parent their child I ended up calling the parents of the other kids my neighbors kid were playing with and asking them if they as a group could get the money together. Saying I was sorry to have to ask because I knew the neighbors family was struggling but maybe they could help them figure out something like perhaps giving their daughter less allowance till she'd paid her part? The other parents were very apologetic. I guess the social pressure of having their peers know they were being difficult about payment got them to buck up, because the families together paid me back and apparently my neighbors contributed begrudgingly. My neighbors have really held a grudge calling me out on a facebook community page... Luckily vague venting not using my name, but they were saying something about single spoiled girls trying to move to a family neighborhood without having any idea of how to interact with family's... AITA for how i went about getting paid back for having my neighbors kid steal some of my stuff to play with?

Clara Jensen
AITA for calling police on a neighbour after she keyed my car because of books I write
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AITA for calling police on a neighbour after she keyed my car because of books I write

I am a single woman in my early 30s, making my living writing and self-publishing adult fiction. By adult fiction, I mean, ADULT fiction with majority of the ‘plot’ being steamy. I don’t typically tell people what I write but I do tell them I write books for a living under a pen name (and if you’re questioning my writing abilities, I have an editor to correct my mistakes). I am not hiding it per se but I am not telling everyone I meet what I do for a living and none of my neighbours knew, only a bunch of friends. I live in a house alone, pretty much of all my neighbours are either young families or retired couples. My next door neighbour is a young couple. We’ve been polite to each other but haven’t been close or anything. Lately, the husband, let’s call him Roger, became very friendly towards me which I tried to ignore but he’s been getting too flirty for my liking, and I started avoiding him. They had a BBQ over the bank holiday weekend, and I was taking rubbish out to put in my bin, Roger looked at me, waved ‘hi’ and whispered something to his friend and they both watched me very carefully which was incredibly creepy. On my way through my garden, I saw Roger’s wife (Dalia) leaving the house with her friend and they both looked at me with disgust and whispered something to each other. It was weird and I hurried back inside. The next morning, I found some religious leaflets put through my letter box. They were just printed on normal printer paper and were warning about lustful behaviour leading to hell, etc. Threw them away but kept finding similar leaflets put through my letter box for the next week. Since I am working from home, I decided to see who’s leaving those leaflets and to my surprise, it was Dalia. I decided to confront her and ask to stop putting religious leaflets through my door. Despite me being polite, she was not happy. She told me that I should rethink my life because what I write is disgusting (it’s pretty vanilla) and she found her husband reading it at night and you can imagine doing what. She kept going on and on how I am going to burn in hell, how I have no morals, etc. Well, I told her to stay away from me and discuss this with her husband and I closed the door in her face. Don’t know who, but someone told them what I do for a living. A day later, I found the word ‘sl*t’ painted on my door. A few days later, I caught her keying my car, she was almost done with the word ‘wh*re.’ Well, I called the police on her and since I installed cameras after the ‘sl*t’ incident, she is being taken to court over keying my car. I talked to my other neighbour (she asked about the police) about it and she told me that I went overboard, that Dalia was clearly insecure but she’s a lovely woman and great mother and I should have talked to her instead of calling the police and give her a chance to change her behaviour. AITA for calling the police and not giving Dalia a chance?

Clara Jensen
AITA for not letting the police and neighbors use my driveway
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AITA for not letting the police and neighbors use my driveway

Going to begin with saying that legally I am in the clear. It's my property and I can do as I wish with it. I bought a piece of land and had a house built on it recently. There was a gravel road(now paved) that has become my driveway. I guess before I lived there the locals used it to get around faster. I've been told that if they can't use my driveway it makes the travel 15 minutes longer. This started when I moved in. The stuff like the yard and surrounding area was not finished but it was complete enough to move in. My driveway is long and can be exited or entered from two sides. With how the house is built for them to use my driveway as a shortcut a lot of traffic would pass right by my house and cars every day. This isn't just ...📖 𝗥𝗲𝗮𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗻𝘂𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁𝘀 ⬇️

Elise Dubois
AITA for asking my neighbors to pay me for deforming my cheap IKEA folding chairs and borrowing them without my consent. They claim that the chairs were defective and couldn't support the weight of an adult.
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AITA for asking my neighbors to pay me for deforming my cheap IKEA folding chairs and borrowing them without my consent. They claim that the chairs were defective and couldn't support the weight of an adult.

A while back I bought a bunch of cheap folding chairs from IKEA for my son’s birthday party. If anyone is having an event a BBQ and needs to borrow them I lend them out. It's no big deal I just ask that they return them in a timely manner. I lent them out to my neighbor Mark, and he was supposed to return them but then another one of our neighbors Barb borrowed them. I was not aware of this until Barb contacted me on FB that she had my chairs. I checked with Mark I am like why did you let Barb have my chairs, he told me that Barb said I said its cool. I was annoyed so I was like just bring them back on Saturday after 3:00pm.. I get the chairs back now four of them are completely deformed. My husband tried to fix them but even with trying to do undo the bending the aluminum part didn’t go back to the original shape and the plastic part has a big fold crease where it turned white. I checked with Barb about what happened with my chairs, she then said that when she sat on them, that some of the "crappy ones" bent, and said that those chairs are dangerous. I was like we had these for years without any issues. Now FWIW Barb and her husband are on the bigger side, and I guess these chairs aren't rated for them, and or they sat on them weirdly. I was like look you didn't even ask me to borrow them you lied to Mark. Barb is like oh come on you let everyone borrow them its no big deal they are just cheap chairs. I was like, okay for the ones you guys bent give me $15 each. Barb is like no, thats messed up those chairs are super old now plus I should have had chairs that can support fold bodied adults. I was like they can handle normal people just fine. She got even more mad, I told her to send the money over. She didn’t but then begrudgingly sent the money over. Was I wrong here? Like yes I get these are crappy chairs but you shouldn’t break them in the first place. And if you break one STOP! For me, the money was nice to see back but its the principal I am not friends with Barb and her husband like I am with Mike and his wife.

Luca Moretti
AITA for telling neighbors wife why I stopped hanging around their kids?
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AITA for telling neighbors wife why I stopped hanging around their kids?

I (27M) just moved into my new house a couple months ago in a nice neighborhood. It was a house my late uncle was renting out and left it to me. The neighbors next door have 2 kids ages 8 and 11. When I first moved in, I started taking up painting outside. Not a professional but I used to love it in highschool so I decided to try again since I’m not really busy with work and have the free time. The boys would notice me outside in the afternoons and the eldest asked me once if they could borrow my paint so they can make something too. And that’s where it started. I’m a kids guy and hope to have my own one day so I let them start coming over to paint after they were done with school. We got along great and they enjoyed learning how to paint. Their mom hangs around when I’m outside with them to look at their work and I’d chat with her. This has been an everyday thing for the last couple of months. Well until a few wks ago when the dad approached me. This is the 2nd time I’ve seen him since I moved. He never leaves the house even when they do. He was really mad because he didn’t appreciate me “flirting” with his wife in front of his own house. And also doesn’t like that I’m using his kids just to talk to her. This caught me by surprise. I’ve never behaved in any way that would be inappropriate around her. Most of our talks are about her kids or everyday stuff. I did try to explain and apologize if I crossed any lines but he just said to keep my distance from his family. So that’s what I ended up doing. When the kids would come over I’d tell them that I’m stuck with work stuff. It makes me sad to bum them out but I didn’t want to overstep with their dad. Then on Friday neighbor’s wife came out while I was watering my lawn. She said she hopes they didn’t bother me too much and was sorry if they took up so much of my time. It’s because she thought I stopped having the kids over because I was tired of them or something. I didn’t want her feeling bad since it probably seemed that way with how I abruptly ended the painting sessions. So I told her that her husband didn’t seem happy about it and he asked me to keep my distance. Didn’t go into details, I only said i didn’t want to upset him. It was obvious she didn’t know from her reaction but she thanked me for telling her. But that just seemed to make things worse because he came at me this morning even worse than before. He was beyond pissed that I told her anything and now it’s my fault they had a fight. Now I feel awful. I really hate conflicts and the last thing I wanted was to make my new neighbors hate me for causing them issues. Thinking back now, should I have told her anything? I really didn’t want any issues but ended up doing that anyways. Was I TA for the way I handled things here and causing them problems?

Anya Petrova
AITA to tell my neighbor I am not their babysitter and to keep their kids away?
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AITA to tell my neighbor I am not their babysitter and to keep their kids away?

I (23M) live within 1 mile of 4 elementary schools. So, there are tons of kids around here. I have a garden so I'm outside a lot and most of the neighborhood kids end up at my lawn at some point in the day. For the most part, it doesn't bother me. They're all great kids and they have tons of questions about plants, gardening, composting, all of that good stuff. I recently finished my PhD in plant systematics, so I honestly do enjoy teaching them about plants and seeing them excited to learn about it all. Also, it is a bit refreshing to have kids running around and screaming outside rather than sitting in front of screens. Recently, an issue has come up though. I was out gardening and the kids came by as usual. I finished up earlier than usual and I went inside. About an hour later someone is literally banging on my door. It's my neighbor and after I open it she instantly starts screaming about how "I left her kids alone to be kidnapped for an hour". And I was at first a bit confused. After some more discussion I learned that she lets her kids outside everyday and tells them to "hang out with me" while she does whatever the hell. Eventually I just apologized and closed the door. After some thinking though I really don't think I'm in the wrong. I am not okay with watching someone's kid. First, I did not know I was "watching" children. What if someone got hurt? I don't know what the hell to do. Second, I feel like this is neglect. This woman doesn't know me anywhere near well enough to be leaving her kids alone with me outside, while she leaves. Lastly, childcare is expensive for a reason. I've been watching kids for free?! So, I went and knocked on her door. Maybe I was a bit harsh, but I told her that I am not a babysitter and I will no longer allow her children near my house or me. I told her I was extremely uncomfortable by this situation and if she leaves her children outside without someone watching again, I will call CPS (I would not like to do that at all). She went off saying she can't afford childcare and I'm an asshole to not just watch her kids when she needs help. I have now gone to the rest of my neighbors and told them that I do not want any children in my yard and explained the situation. Most were very understanding (and watch their children). Today one boy came by and I asked him to leave and he said "okay" but was clearly holding back tears and now I'm feeling like an asshole. I'm needing some outside opinion. Am I an asshole for this? How do I even handle this situation? ETA: First, I will be contacting CPS to at least let them know about what happened with my neighbors unsupervised kids. I'm not really sure what to say or complain about exactly, but I think if I describe the situation fully to them, they will understand. I really do fear what could have happened to them and has I known they were unsupervised, I would have at least asked a neighboring parent to watch them. It's been brought up a few times. My garden is in my front yard, in complete view of all of my neighbors and anyone driving or walking by. I also have security cameras on the front of my house, not for this situation necessarily, but to watch over my garden for animals. No child has ever entered my home nor would I ever allow that. But those comments have reminded me just how much people might consider that I am a creep or something along those lines, which I obviously don't want. So, I will continue not allowing any of the kids to come by. Somebody gave me the great idea to have parents and kids come by for a scheduled time,together. So, I think maybe I'll see what I can get out together for that. I'll stop by some of the neighbors tomorrow and see what they think. Thank you all for your replies and suggestions, it is much appreciated. ETA 2: Tried to post a second edit before, but it's not showing up on my end, my apologies if it comes up twice. And it's a long the comments a few times. Thank you to an amazing commenter (I can't find your name, I will update if I do) I have a new plan. I have found a bit of a prewritten contract for this sort of thing and I've added some fine details for my specific situation. I have researched some lawyers and will be making some calls when their offices open to get feedback and have them make any necessary reviews (I am not suited for this). Then once a contract is finalized, I will have all families sign the contract for each child, this will include my neighbor who yelled at me. Any parent who does not agree to my rules, will not be allowed to have their child here without parent supervision. Any parent who agrees is welcome to have their children here while I am in the garden. I will also hold off on calling CPS, hopefully I won't be calling, although I do feel the kids are being abused. I feel like it would be better to see if I can logically help, maybe watch the kids for an hour a day or two. I think this is better for the kids and may help her balance just life as a single mom easier. I think my first step should be to help rather than to complain, although I did come here basically complaining. All in all, I greatly appreciate your comments and opinions and do appreciate those who recommended ways I prevent being seen as a groomer or pedo or anything along those lines. I would not have reached this decision without all of your help, thank you. A special thank you to the person who typed out multiple paragraphs telling me to write a contract and those who told me to consult a lawyer.

Jonas Bergström
AITAH: Canadian in the USA here... lost it on a neighbor after hearing the 51st State "Joke" for the 50th time.
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AITAH: Canadian in the USA here... lost it on a neighbor after hearing the 51st State "Joke" for the 50th time.

I'm a Canadian visiting the USA for the winter. I love America. Totally love it. The weather, the people, even the "rah rah I'm AmErIkUa! best in the world" attitude. You go America. You have a lot to be proud of. And my neighbors are the best too. But I am so sick of the "Hey you guys are going to be the 51st state soon!" "Joke". FUCK THAT. I love my own country too. Much as I love the USA, I am Canadian first and we are proudly independent. Hard as it is to wrap an American mind around the concept, there are actually people who love visiting the USA, love the USA, but do not wish to be Americans. Would an American like to be told by say Cuba that soon the USA would be invaded and annexed? Hell no you would not. So the other day a neighbor did the "joke" again "Bet you can't wait to be the 51st state!" and I said "that can not happen in my lifetime" he looked puzzled so I added "Because I would take up arms to defend my country and die before I let that happen." He was shocked and wandered away shaking his head. I know he wasn't intending to be offensive and I realize I may be a bit of an AH for overreacting but damn it... that's just a nasty thing to say to a Canadian visitor.

Anya Petrova
AITA for making an insurance claim against my neighbor for hitting my car even though my car is a beater?
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AITA for making an insurance claim against my neighbor for hitting my car even though my car is a beater?

I have an old car that I bought for 2000 dollars when I was 16. I'm 26 now. In the time I've had it, I've learned a lot about car maintenance, I fix it up with junkyard parts and it's pretty cheap to keep running. It's dented and rusty as all hell but it goes and it's cheap. So anyway, my neighbor parks in his driveway and I park on the street. And he's gotten mad at me for parking in the street because he finds it harder to navigate his big truck around my car. I asked him if he wants me to move my car ahead a bit or behind a bit on the street, because I'm happy to, but I have to park somewhere on the street because I don't have a driveway or garage space. He didn't like that, he doesn't want me parking on the street at all. But I'm not about to park on a whole different street then I live at. Anyway, this week I was sitting on my fire escape reading a book and I saw my neighbor drive out his driveway right into my car's side. I grabbed my phone and started filming asap. I walked out to the car still filming and got a good video of the damage to the door panel. It was dented and scratched. Now my car was already pretty beat; it's got body panels from 3 different cars, dents and dings all over, it's got damage to the convertible soft top that I've fixed up with glue and patches, etc. It's a tough old girl. So the new damage didn't bother me much, I didn't plan on fixing it. But it did bother me that my neighbor hit and run my car. Especially because he knew it belonged to me. So after a few days of thinking on it, I decided to file an insurance claim. I sent the company the video which had gotten my neighbors license plate in it. I thought they could find his insurance and settle. The insurance company said that for a hit and run the policy was that I needed to file a police report so I did. I wasn't expecting that much but I got a $1600 dollar payout from my neighbors insurance. I guess they appraised my car based on its estimated value based on model and year and didn't pay attention to the fact that it's an absolute beater with a lot of diy fixes. Anyway my neighbor is mad at me and came to my house after three insurance thing had paid out and he was looking to yell at me. But my landlord was there in the hallway doing some repairs and when he came looking for which door was mine, my landlord told him that if he wasn't invited to get the hell off his property. Guess he could tell this guy was angry and probably wasn't a good idea to send him up to my room. I feel a little bad that I hid lol. Feels cowardly. But it was also cowardly he did a hit and run AITA for taking a huge insurance payout on my beater car, because my neighbor hit it?

Clara Jensen
WIBTA if I tell my vegetarian neighbors they are eating animal byproducts?
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WIBTA if I tell my vegetarian neighbors they are eating animal byproducts?

My neighbors are vegetarian for religious reasons. I do know that they weren't always vegetarian and only chose to be more strict about their diet in the last few years. I am also a vegetarian but just as a personal choice. They are raising their daughter as a vegetarian as well while my daughter and husband both eat any meat products they want. My daughter likes to go to their house to play and will regularly come home with things like gummy bears and marshmallow treats that are made with pork gelatin. They also get pizza from a place near us that uses cheeses made with calf renet. There are a few other small examples like that. When we first moved to the neighborhood there was a big block party. My neighbor offered me jello from the table and I told her I don't eat it because it contains pork. She was genuinly surprised that it was made with pork. I didn't say anything about gelatin just the Jello so i don't know if she knows to look for that. It's all small things that most people don't even know are made from a life. Its all very easy to overlook. My husband thinks I should just leave it and let ignorance be bliss for them but again, he's not a vegetarian so it wouldn't bother him. He thinks I would be an asshole because it would be ruining their daughters favorite snacks and I shouldn't do that to a kid. I just feel like if it's important enough for you to raise your whole family in accordance with a certain lifestyle them you maybe would want a heads up that something is slipping through the cracks. All of these things have very similar vegetarian alternatives (Except the marshmallows. They suck.) so it would be an easy fix but since it's tied to their belief system, i'm worried I would be uneccessarily causing guilt. So WIBTA if I said something or should I just leave it and mind my own business? ​ Edit: I also want to add that they are pretty strict otherwise. They only wear vegan clothing and won't even eat mushrooms because they feel that they could be considered an animal.

Jonas Bergström
AITA for asking my upstairs neighbor to not vacuum her hard floors?
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AITA for asking my upstairs neighbor to not vacuum her hard floors?

My neighbor moved in above me about a month ago. Before she moved in, the complex renovated her unit so she has all hard floors except in the bedrooms. (Unrenovated units like mine are all carpeted.) Everything has been fine so far, except for at some point every week she vacuums her floors. Now, obviously I understand her vacuuming the carpeted areas or her rugs. But she vacuums the hard floors too. It can go on for about half an hour. The issue is that I work from home and she vacuums in the middle of the day when I'm on meetings. It's very hard for me to concentrate on my meetings when this happens. I finally went up and knocked on her door and explained the situation to her. She was very apologetic, and asked when is a better time for her to vacuum so that she doesn't disturb me. I asked why she needed to vacuum her hard floors as opposed to just sweeping or swiffering. She said that she has a cat, so she actually vacuums AND Swiffer's. That's the only way she can be sure that she gets all of the hair up. I basically told her that she should maybe consider switching to both sweeping and swiffering, instead of vacuuming. She said that wasn't possible, but said that she would make every attempt to vacuum during non work hours. I asked that she also make sure not to do it too late in the day either, and she basically just closed the door, which made me think maybe I was an AH. But, I mean, I have to be able to do my job. AITA?

Luca Moretti