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Caught A Neighbor Stealing My Garden Veggies And Now She Is Calling Me Toxic
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Caught A Neighbor Stealing My Garden Veggies And Now She Is Calling Me Toxic

I (30M) live in a nice little neighborhood, everyone knows everybody, we all have our own space and many have flower gardens. I have a green house in my backyard that is visible from the street and behind a four foot picket fence. We got a new neighbor, haven't had the chance to meet them until today. I have a camera in my yard that notified me of movement near the green house so I went and checked and that's when I found a lady and young teen picking tomatoes and peppers in my green house. I raised my voice and asked what on earth they were doing and the woman says it's fine she's friends with the owner. I asked if she wants to run that by me again cause in the owner and I don't know who the hell they are. When she realized she was caught she tried to leave with a bag full of vegetables, I told her she isn't leaving with that food and she has two minutes to drop it and leave or I'm pressing charges. She starts crying that she's trying to feed her child and needs it and that she can't afford this on her record but I didn't feel like rewarding a theft and took the food from her and called the cops. She's telling everyone im an asshole and a toxic man and though most are telling her she's in the wrong, her friends on facebook are telling me I'm an asshole and should be ashamed. Edited for information: when she was offered the chance to leave without police involvement she screamed at me and broke a pot that had some chives growing. I don't have her on facebook. However my name is on my mail box and have since put my account to private. If she had asked first, by all means I would have given her a couple peppers, tomatoes even some squash, but she didn't.

Jonas Bergström
My Neighbors Stole My Wi-Fi Password and Now My Daughter Is Failing Her Classes
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My Neighbors Stole My Wi-Fi Password and Now My Daughter Is Failing Her Classes

I live in an area where I am not wealthy, but I have a Wi-Fi connection. My Wi-Fi plan has a four-device limit, which is the cheapest option available. My neighbors have a 12-year-old daughter, Shanaya, who needs to attend online classes. She often visits my daughter, as they are friends. Shanaya’s parents told her they could not afford Wi-Fi, so she asked if she could use mine. I agreed, setting one condition: she had to study very hard and do her best. She agreed, and she has been using it for some time. Over the past two months, I have found it difficult to use my Wi-Fi. The web portal shows four devices constantly connected, even when only my phone and my daughter's laptop are in use. Sometimes, my daughter cannot connect to her classes and has to use mobile data. I asked Shanaya about this last week, and she said her parents made her tell them the password and that they have been using it. I spoke to her parents, explaining it was strictly for her classes. They promised to stop, but over the past week, my daughter's classes were interrupted four times because multiple devices were trying to use the connection. Yesterday, Shanaya told me that our other neighbors are also using the Wi-Fi because her parents gave them the password. I warned her parents again, stating I would change the password, but they made false promises and closed the door. I changed the password and gave Shanaya the new one, but her parents forced it from her again. My daughter's education must take priority; her classes are important. I cannot let her education suffer, but if I change the password again and do not give Shanaya the new one, her education will be affected. Would I be the asshole if I change the password and do not tell Shanaya?

Luca Moretti
Adult-Fiction Writer Gets Harassed By Her Jealous Neighbor For Writing Her "Immoral" Books
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Adult-Fiction Writer Gets Harassed By Her Jealous Neighbor For Writing Her "Immoral" Books

I am a single woman in my early 30s, making my living writing and self-publishing adult fiction. By adult fiction, I mean, ADULT fiction with majority of the ‘plot’ being steamy. I don’t typically tell people what I write but I do tell them I write books for a living under a pen name (and if you’re questioning my writing abilities, I have an editor to correct my mistakes). I am not hiding it per se but I am not telling everyone I meet what I do for a living and none of my neighbours knew, only a bunch of friends. I live in a house alone, pretty much of all my neighbours are either young families or retired couples. My next door neighbour is a young couple. We’ve been polite to each other but haven’t been close or anything. Lately, the husband, let’s call him Roger, became very friendly towards me which I tried to ignore but he’s been getting too flirty for my liking, and I started avoiding him. They had a BBQ over the bank holiday weekend, and I was taking rubbish out to put in my bin, Roger looked at me, waved ‘hi’ and whispered something to his friend and they both watched me very carefully which was incredibly creepy. On my way through my garden, I saw Roger’s wife (Dalia) leaving the house with her friend and they both looked at me with disgust and whispered something to each other. It was weird and I hurried back inside. The next morning, I found some religious leaflets put through my letter box. They were just printed on normal printer paper and were warning about lustful behaviour leading to hell, etc. Threw them away but kept finding similar leaflets put through my letter box for the next week. Since I am working from home, I decided to see who’s leaving those leaflets and to my surprise, it was Dalia. I decided to confront her and ask to stop putting religious leaflets through my door. Despite me being polite, she was not happy. She told me that I should rethink my life because what I write is disgusting (it’s pretty vanilla) and she found her husband reading it at night and you can imagine doing what. She kept going on and on how I am going to burn in hell, how I have no morals, etc. Well, I told her to stay away from me and discuss this with her husband and I closed the door in her face. Don’t know who, but someone told them what I do for a living. A day later, I found the word ‘sl*t’ painted on my door. A few days later, I caught her keying my car, she was almost done with the word ‘wh*re.’ Well, I called the police on her and since I installed cameras after the ‘sl*t’ incident, she is being taken to court over keying my car. I talked to my other neighbour (she asked about the police) about it and she told me that I went overboard, that Dalia was clearly insecure but she’s a lovely woman and great mother and I should have talked to her instead of calling the police and give her a chance to change her behaviour. AITA for calling the police and not giving Dalia a chance?

Clara Jensen
AITA for not letting the police and neighbors use my driveway
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AITA for not letting the police and neighbors use my driveway

Going to begin with saying that legally I am in the clear. It's my property and I can do as I wish with it. I bought a piece of land and had a house built on it recently. There was a gravel road(now paved) that has become my driveway. I guess before I lived there the locals used it to get around faster. I've been told that if they can't use my driveway it makes the travel 15 minutes longer. This started when I moved in. The stuff like the yard and surrounding area was not finished but it was complete enough to move in. My driveway is long and can be exited or entered from two sides. With how the house is built for them to use my driveway as a shortcut a lot of traffic would pass right by my house and cars every day. This isn't just ...📖 𝗥𝗲𝗮𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗻𝘂𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁𝘀 ⬇️

Elise Dubois
I Heard My Neighbors Brutally Berating Their Kids So I Called Child Services and They Disappeared
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I Heard My Neighbors Brutally Berating Their Kids So I Called Child Services and They Disappeared

I (32F) live in a quiet suburban neighborhood, and overall, things are pretty peaceful. Most of my neighbors are nice enough, but I don’t really know anyone all that well. One family that lives next door has two young kids Max (12) and Lily (10) and their parents seem like regular folks. I’ve talked to them a few times, but we’re not exactly close. Last week, though, something happened that I can’t get out of my head, and now I’m questioning if I did the right thing. It was a Saturday afternoon, and I was in my backyard doing some gardening when I heard loud yelling coming from next door. At first, I thought it was just one of those normal arguments you hear sometimes, you know? Maybe a parent telling the kids to clean up or something like that. But then I heard something that stopped me cold Max, the older boy, started crying out, and it wasn’t just a normal cry. It sounded like real distress. I couldn’t make out every word, but I could hear the mom yelling at him. She was calling him "stupid" and "worthless" because he hadn’t finished his lunch. She kept telling him he was "useless" and "couldn’t do anything right." I thought maybe she was just having a bad moment, but then I heard her scream, "Why are you so dumb?!" I could feel my heart racing. It sounded so harsh, like she wasn’t just frustrated with him, but genuinely angry. Then, I heard the dad’s voice he was yelling at Lily, the little girl. He was calling her "a disappointment" and telling her she would "never be anything." I couldn’t make out everything, but it was so cruel, and honestly, it broke my heart. I could hear them both crying, and it just didn’t sit right with me. As much as I tried to shake it off, I couldn’t ignore how scared they sounded. And then… I heard a loud thud, like something hitting the wall or maybe the floor, followed by Max screaming in pain. It wasn’t a regular "ouch" or anything like that. It sounded like a real reaction to something that hurt. I don’t know what happened after that, but I knew at that moment that I couldn’t just let it go. I called child services immediately. I didn’t know what else to do, and honestly, I was terrified for those kids. I wasn’t going to go over there, especially not without knowing what could happen. I told them everything I heard about the verbal abuse, the way they were talking to the kids, and the thud I’d heard. I know it wasn’t much, but it was all I had. They said they’d look into it, but obviously, they didn’t give me any details. A few days later, the family moved out. I don’t know if it was connected to the report or if it was just a coincidence, but I haven’t seen them since. And I can’t help but wonder if I did the right thing. I didn’t want to get anyone in trouble or make things worse, but at the same time, I couldn’t just ignore it. Some of my neighbors have been asking questions about why I called child services. A few have thanked me, saying that they’ve suspected something was off but didn’t know how to handle it. But others have been a little more judgmental, saying I overreacted and that it wasn’t my business. I’m second-guessing myself now. Did I overstep? Should I have tried talking to them first before calling anyone? I honestly don’t know. I just wanted to help those kids, but now I’m wondering if I did more harm than good. So, AITA for reporting my neighbors? I’m just hoping I did the right thing, but I feel really conflicted about it all.

Jonas Bergström
Gardening Young Man Allows Neighborhood Children To Hang Out In His Front Yard, Argues With An Entitled Mom Who Thought He Was A Free Babysitter
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Gardening Young Man Allows Neighborhood Children To Hang Out In His Front Yard, Argues With An Entitled Mom Who Thought He Was A Free Babysitter

I (23M) live within 1 mile of 4 elementary schools. So, there are tons of kids around here. I have a garden so I'm outside a lot and most of the neighborhood kids end up at my lawn at some point in the day. For the most part, it doesn't bother me. They're all great kids and they have tons of questions about plants, gardening, composting, all of that good stuff. I recently finished my PhD in plant systematics, so I honestly do enjoy teaching them about plants and seeing them excited to learn about it all. Also, it is a bit refreshing to have kids running around and screaming outside rather than sitting in front of screens. Recently, an issue has come up though. I was out gardening and the kids came by as usual. I finished up earlier than usual and I went inside. About an hour later someone is literally banging on my door. It's my neighbor and after I open it she instantly starts screaming about how "I left her kids alone to be kidnapped for an hour". And I was at first a bit confused. After some more discussion I learned that she lets her kids outside everyday and tells them to "hang out with me" while she does whatever the hell. Eventually I just apologized and closed the door. After some thinking though I really don't think I'm in the wrong. I am not okay with watching someone's kid. First, I did not know I was "watching" children. What if someone got hurt? I don't know what the hell to do. Second, I feel like this is neglect. This woman doesn't know me anywhere near well enough to be leaving her kids alone with me outside, while she leaves. Lastly, childcare is expensive for a reason. I've been watching kids for free?! So, I went and knocked on her door. Maybe I was a bit harsh, but I told her that I am not a babysitter and I will no longer allow her children near my house or me. I told her I was extremely uncomfortable by this situation and if she leaves her children outside without someone watching again, I will call CPS (I would not like to do that at all). She went off saying she can't afford childcare and I'm an asshole to not just watch her kids when she needs help. I have now gone to the rest of my neighbors and told them that I do not want any children in my yard and explained the situation. Most were very understanding (and watch their children). Today one boy came by and I asked him to leave and he said "okay" but was clearly holding back tears and now I'm feeling like an asshole. I'm needing some outside opinion. Am I an asshole for this? How do I even handle this situation? ETA: First, I will be contacting CPS to at least let them know about what happened with my neighbors unsupervised kids. I'm not really sure what to say or complain about exactly, but I think if I describe the situation fully to them, they will understand. I really do fear what could have happened to them and has I known they were unsupervised, I would have at least asked a neighboring parent to watch them. It's been brought up a few times. My garden is in my front yard, in complete view of all of my neighbors and anyone driving or walking by. I also have security cameras on the front of my house, not for this situation necessarily, but to watch over my garden for animals. No child has ever entered my home nor would I ever allow that. But those comments have reminded me just how much people might consider that I am a creep or something along those lines, which I obviously don't want. So, I will continue not allowing any of the kids to come by. Somebody gave me the great idea to have parents and kids come by for a scheduled time,together. So, I think maybe I'll see what I can get out together for that. I'll stop by some of the neighbors tomorrow and see what they think. Thank you all for your replies and suggestions, it is much appreciated. ETA 2: Tried to post a second edit before, but it's not showing up on my end, my apologies if it comes up twice. And it's a long the comments a few times. Thank you to an amazing commenter (I can't find your name, I will update if I do) I have a new plan. I have found a bit of a prewritten contract for this sort of thing and I've added some fine details for my specific situation. I have researched some lawyers and will be making some calls when their offices open to get feedback and have them make any necessary reviews (I am not suited for this). Then once a contract is finalized, I will have all families sign the contract for each child, this will include my neighbor who yelled at me. Any parent who does not agree to my rules, will not be allowed to have their child here without parent supervision. Any parent who agrees is welcome to have their children here while I am in the garden. I will also hold off on calling CPS, hopefully I won't be calling, although I do feel the kids are being abused. I feel like it would be better to see if I can logically help, maybe watch the kids for an hour a day or two. I think this is better for the kids and may help her balance just life as a single mom easier. I think my first step should be to help rather than to complain, although I did come here basically complaining. All in all, I greatly appreciate your comments and opinions and do appreciate those who recommended ways I prevent being seen as a groomer or pedo or anything along those lines. I would not have reached this decision without all of your help, thank you. A special thank you to the person who typed out multiple paragraphs telling me to write a contract and those who told me to consult a lawyer.

Jonas Bergström
Neighbor kept joking I should become a US citizen so I told him I’d die fighting it
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Neighbor kept joking I should become a US citizen so I told him I’d die fighting it

I'm a Canadian visiting the USA for the winter. I love America. Totally love it. The weather, the people, even the "rah rah I'm AmErIkUa! best in the world" attitude. You go America. You have a lot to be proud of. And my neighbors are the best too. But I am so sick of the "Hey you guys are going to be the 51st state soon!" "Joke". FUCK THAT. I love my own country too. Much as I love the USA, I am Canadian first and we are proudly independent. Hard as it is to wrap an American mind around the concept, there are actually people who love visiting the USA, love the USA, but do not wish to be Americans. Would an American like to be told by say Cuba that soon the USA would be invaded and annexed? Hell no you would not. So the other day a neighbor did the "joke" again "Bet you can't wait to be the 51st state!" and I said "that can not happen in my lifetime" he looked puzzled so I added "Because I would take up arms to defend my country and die before I let that happen." He was shocked and wandered away shaking his head. I know he wasn't intending to be offensive and I realize I may be a bit of an AH for overreacting but damn it... that's just a nasty thing to say to a Canadian visitor.

Anya Petrova
Neighbor took a photo of me without my ring and told my wife I’m a serial cheater
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Neighbor took a photo of me without my ring and told my wife I’m a serial cheater

Posting this here because it was removed from r/AmItheasshole... My wife and I have been together for 7 years. There has never been any infidelity on either end. When we moved into our current apartment last year, my wife befriended a couple up the hall, Anna and Sarah. Anna has the view of "all men are horrible monsters." She's entitled to her opinion and I get where she's coming from to some extent. Over Memorial Day weekend, my wife left town to visit some family. On Friday night, I went to the corner store and got myself a 6 pack of beer, hopped on discord with a buddy, and painted some Warhammer 40k figures. Before I started painting, I took my ring off to avoid getting any primer, paint, etc on it. I forgot to put my ring back on before bed. The next morning I went out to get some coffee and ran into Anna and Sarah on my way back in, chatted for maybe 2 minutes. 10 minutes later my wife calls me and asks why I'm not wearing my ring. I tell her that I must have forgotten to put it back on after painting. I also asked her how she knew I wasn't wearing it. Apparently, Anna took a picture of me while we were speaking and sent it to my wife with a message that basically said "The first time you go out of town and his ring off. He's probably cheating on you" My wife immediately believes me and told me as much. Just to ensure there were no doubts, I sent her my location history showing the only time I left the apartment on Friday was to get beer and a picture of my work-in-progress figures (Custodes, IYKYK). My wife returned Monday and told me the following. After we spoke on the phone she messaged Anna saying that she appreciates being looked after, but that I wasn't up to anything nefarious and had even provided proof. Anna replied that I likely had this all planned out and had my 'proof' at the ready and only had to use it because I 'got caught.' I ask my wife, what would Anna like to see to prove that I basically spent my Friday night doing the OPPOSITE of cheating? I feel a bit attacked and offered for Anna to come over and read the discord chat history between my buddy and I, which is full of back-and-forth links and 40k pictures from 7pm until midnight when I logged off. My wife says I'm turning this into nothing, and insisting I'm innocent is only going to make Anna dig in her heels. Next weekend they are having a picnic and Sarah invited us. I tell my wife that she should go without me, I don't feel like spending any time around Anna, who clearly does not respect me and thinks I'm a serial cheater with no morals. I don't want to spend the afternoon getting the side-eye from her, and I have some anxiety that she's going to (or already has been) gossipping about me. My wife thinks I should extend an olive branch by coming to the picnic with some cookies and telling Anna that I appreciate that she's looking out for my wife, but nothing happened. I feel like I did nothing wrong and that getting back in Anna's good graces is not warrented. AITA for not just smoothing things over?

Anya Petrova
My Neighbors Think They Are Raising A Perfect Vegetarian Family But I Know They're Eating Pork
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My Neighbors Think They Are Raising A Perfect Vegetarian Family But I Know They're Eating Pork

My neighbors are vegetarian for religious reasons. I do know that they weren't always vegetarian and only chose to be more strict about their diet in the last few years. I am also a vegetarian but just as a personal choice. They are raising their daughter as a vegetarian as well while my daughter and husband both eat any meat products they want. My daughter likes to go to their house to play and will regularly come home with things like gummy bears and marshmallow treats that are made with pork gelatin. They also get pizza from a place near us that uses cheeses made with calf renet. There are a few other small examples like that. When we first moved to the neighborhood there was a big block party. My neighbor offered me jello from the table and I told her I don't eat it because it contains pork. She was genuinly surprised that it was made with pork. I didn't say anything about gelatin just the Jello so i don't know if she knows to look for that. It's all small things that most people don't even know are made from a life. Its all very easy to overlook. My husband thinks I should just leave it and let ignorance be bliss for them but again, he's not a vegetarian so it wouldn't bother him. He thinks I would be an asshole because it would be ruining their daughters favorite snacks and I shouldn't do that to a kid. I just feel like if it's important enough for you to raise your whole family in accordance with a certain lifestyle them you maybe would want a heads up that something is slipping through the cracks. All of these things have very similar vegetarian alternatives (Except the marshmallows. They suck.) so it would be an easy fix but since it's tied to their belief system, i'm worried I would be uneccessarily causing guilt. So WIBTA if I said something or should I just leave it and mind my own business? ​ Edit: I also want to add that they are pretty strict otherwise. They only wear vegan clothing and won't even eat mushrooms because they feel that they could be considered an animal.

Jonas Bergström
My ex just moved in with my upstairs neighbor after telling me they were just friends
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My ex just moved in with my upstairs neighbor after telling me they were just friends

Hiya so me (23m) and my ex (20f) were together for 18 months. We have an upstairs neighbour (31m) that was in the building before me. My ex moved into my flat for the last year of the relationship and obviously knew my upstairs neighbour. I had his number has he used to look after my cats. Anyway, they friended each other on Facebook and then swapped numbers and started talking. I thought nothing of it at first. Eventually I started feeling weird about and she said don’t worry about it we’re just friends. But her replies to him started getting longer and more flirty than her replies were to me. We always used to joke about calling a goblin and stuff and she’d always say horrid stuff about him. And was really mean towards him. Anyway. We split up a month ago after she kept getting mad at me for nothing. Such as me bringing in the drying rack from outside and folding away our clothes. I then placed the rack against the wall as she came home. And she got really mad at me when she bumped into it. So. I’ve found out yesterday she’s now seeing my upstairs neighbour. Tonight is the first night she’s staying there. Which is obviously right above me Am I wrong to think that this is disgusting? Like the way she said don’t worry about him. And the fact he’s my neighbour. I feel so upset and not sure what to do

Elise Dubois
I Told My Neighbor To Stop Vacuuming Her Own Floors And She Completely Shut Me Down
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I Told My Neighbor To Stop Vacuuming Her Own Floors And She Completely Shut Me Down

My neighbor moved in above me about a month ago. Before she moved in, the complex renovated her unit so she has all hard floors except in the bedrooms. (Unrenovated units like mine are all carpeted.) Everything has been fine so far, except for at some point every week she vacuums her floors. Now, obviously I understand her vacuuming the carpeted areas or her rugs. But she vacuums the hard floors too. It can go on for about half an hour. The issue is that I work from home and she vacuums in the middle of the day when I'm on meetings. It's very hard for me to concentrate on my meetings when this happens. I finally went up and knocked on her door and explained the situation to her. She was very apologetic, and asked when is a better time for her to vacuum so that she doesn't disturb me. I asked why she needed to vacuum her hard floors as opposed to just sweeping or swiffering. She said that she has a cat, so she actually vacuums AND Swiffer's. That's the only way she can be sure that she gets all of the hair up. I basically told her that she should maybe consider switching to both sweeping and swiffering, instead of vacuuming. She said that wasn't possible, but said that she would make every attempt to vacuum during non work hours. I asked that she also make sure not to do it too late in the day either, and she basically just closed the door, which made me think maybe I was an AH. But, I mean, I have to be able to do my job. AITA?

Luca Moretti
Redditor Closes Off Property The Whole Neighborhood Because One Entitled Family Kept "Mistaking Their Land For Public Space," Using Their Pool And Even Building A Fire Pit
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Redditor Closes Off Property The Whole Neighborhood Because One Entitled Family Kept "Mistaking Their Land For Public Space," Using Their Pool And Even Building A Fire Pit

I live in a non English speaking European country and because of history that means land borders between properties are sometimes very weird. Well that is the case with my house and the neighbors, all our houses are about the same size yet out of all the land behind our houses my area is huge I own like 90% of all land there reaching all the way to the woods far behind our houses, meanwhile all my neighbors essentially got tiny strip right behind their houses. The part right behind my house is fenced off yet the rest is pretty much open and my wife and daughters like to use it for gardening. The field is used by most of the neighborhood boys to play football on as it is the only flat piece of grassland around they always ask for permission to use it before hand and I always allow it on the condition I get no complaints if I tell them to leave and they don't litter. I also recently had a pool installed to the far back of my property and fenced it off, this is important later. Well this is where the issue starts, recently a new family moved in and they seem to think it is public land. I kept catching their kids running around through the flowers and vegetable garden and they even moved their grill on the field and held a picnic on my land. I keep telling them off and informing it is my land, but they just ignore me and the kids sometimes wont leave when I tell them to. A month ago the kids even climbed over the fence around the pool and when I got them out and went to their parents they just said "Oh we figured it was a public pool", I had hoped that was the end of it yet these people build a fire pit in the 3 days I was away from my house and when I got back I found it with a bunch of empty beer cans around. That was the last straw for me and I hired a company owned by a buddy of mine from when I used to do construction work, bought all the supplies, and 7 days later and a lot of money lighter my entire property was walled off and whenever anyone asked I told them why I was doing that and who they could thank for it. Well now the new family is treated as if they are a pest and all the neighborhood kids are gutted they lost their football field which has resulted in them picking on the new neighbors kids. I honestly feel pretty terrible, but I also feel like I gave them plenty of warnings before taking drastic actions.

Luca Moretti
Neighbor accused me of seducing her husband so I gave her a response she will never forget
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Neighbor accused me of seducing her husband so I gave her a response she will never forget

I live in a complex that is built in a circle so its like a track. A lot of people use it to run, walk, etc. I've always used it to run/walk as well. I live in Florida so I usually wear leggings and a sports bra or a tank top. I literally only wear it because it's insanely hot here. This woman always gave me dirty looks when I'd walk by her apartment (she'd be sitting on her porch.) There are a few maintenance guys (not sure if that is the correct title for them - but that is what everyone calls them) that walk and ride around on golf carts throughout the day. I soon realized that the dirty look woman is married to one of the maintenance workers. I am always polite to them, but have never talked to them by any means. So, yesterday I was working out on the tennis court which is near their apartment. Her and her husband were sitting on the porch. She is giving me the dirtiest looks and is making me pretty uncomfortable but I try to ignore it. Before I leave she says, "Do you like get off on having the maintenance men check you out all day?" To which I replied, "Actually yes it makes me super wet. They are what keeps my sex drive high." She looked shocked and her husband started laughing and then she smacked him on the arm. I came back and told my mom this story and she said I should be more sensitive and obviously the woman is insecure. Now I kinda feel bad. AITA?

Anya Petrova
Redditor's Wife Questions Neighbor's Kids About Their Dad To Help Their Mom Get Full Custody, He Tells Her To Stay Out Of It
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Redditor's Wife Questions Neighbor's Kids About Their Dad To Help Their Mom Get Full Custody, He Tells Her To Stay Out Of It

My wife (37F) and I (38M) moved to a new neighborhood about 3 years ago with our 2 kids (8 & 6). Our neighbors across the street have 2 kids (9 & 7) that our kids quickly became friends with. We would hang out with the parents as well and my wife became close friends with the mom. The dad and I got along fine, but never got as close as my wife and the mother. Unfortunately, about a year ago, the parents separated and the mom filed for divorce. Apparently, the dad had an affair. The mom moved out as the house was owned by the dad before they got married. She took the kids with her. According to my wife, the mom tried to get full custody of the kids, but the dad asked for and was granted partial custody. So he has the kids 3 weekends a month, the rest of the time they stay with their mom. I've only very briefly talked with the dad about the whole thing as he obviously feels a lot of shame about the affair and we aren't close enough for me to feel I can ask deep questions about it. The kids all still play together when they can. I noticed my wife would make it a point to make sure our kids invited them over to our house. I also noticed that my wife was asking the neighbor kids some pretty odd and honestly rather intrusive questions about their dad. Like if he has "friends" over at his house when they are there. What he feeds them, what rules he has at home, do they feel safe there, etc. This past weekend the kids were at our house and stayed over for dinner and my wife asked the kids if they like hanging out with their dad or mom more. I cut in before the kids could answer and changed the subject to watching a movie after dinner. As my wife and I were cleaning up, I asked her what the hell all the questions are about. She said that her friend is still trying to get full custody of their kids and she asked my wife if she would keep an eye out for anything that she could use to build the case against the dad. I was shocked. I told her that's none of our business and she needs to stay out of it. I told her it seems like her friend is still upset about the affair and is using that anger as justification to try and take the kids away from their father. I told her that neither of us has ever seen a single thing to indicate that this guy is a bad father. Sure, he had an affair and that makes him a bad husband, but that has zero influence on his ability to be a good loving father. I told her what her friend asked to do her was gross and the fact that she's going along with it is something that I strongly disagree with. I told her she needs to mind her own business. She said she's just trying to look out for her friend and she's trying to make sure that the kids end up in a situation that is best for them. I told her that essentially spying on our neighbor is not her responsibility and she's definitely in the wrong for asking the kids the kind of questions she is. She feels she's completely justified, but I do not.

Clara Jensen
Neighbor Demanded I Buy Her Tomatoes After She Planted Them On My Property Without Asking
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Neighbor Demanded I Buy Her Tomatoes After She Planted Them On My Property Without Asking

I own a house that is close to other homes. Each home is 10 or so ft apart, but we all have back yards. Recently I noticed a tomato garden growing on the side of my home. The back of my house sticks out a little more than the front []o that kind of shape and the back goes right up to my property line. The garden was on the side of the smaller part of my house, but still technically on my yard. Then there’s my neighbors driveway, and their house. I just bought the house a little under a year ago, and don’t know much about plants, so wasn’t sure if it had to be planted or just grew on it’s own. I ignored it, but later sent a text to my landscaper about a few vines on that side of my home growing up my house. The landscaper came and removed everything, including the tomato plants. I’m not home when the landscaper comes, so just saw later that day. A few hours later, the neighbor came to my door upset that I removed them and asking for me to buy them organic tomatoes for the rest of the season or replace their plants with mature ones from Home Depot. I told them their plants shouldn’t have been on my yard, and I have a landscaping sign in my yard, it shouldn’t be my responsibility to make sure my landscaper doesn’t take out plants that are in my yard and aren’t mine. I’m wondering if maybe for the sake of keeping the peace I should just replace the plants though? AITA for ripping out their plants?

Anya Petrova
Redditors "Steals" Back Their Family Cat From Neighbors Who Claimed Their Daughter "Found" Him
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Redditors "Steals" Back Their Family Cat From Neighbors Who Claimed Their Daughter "Found" Him

My family has a cat(5m), for anonymity I will call him Fluffbutt. He was with our family since he was 2 month old and is a beautiful cat in general. He is very affectionate with the people he knows but is terrified of strangers. He is an indoor only cat as we live in a large industrial city, and the chances of him getting stolen are very high. It's also worth noting that Fluffbutt has a cereal and corn allergy, so he is on a special diet of a good quality grain free cat food. Our apartment had to have a new kitchen done, so we temporarily relocated Fluffbutt to my grandparents so he won't stress out or escape. My grandparents loved him and really enjoyed his company. Two days ago, Fluffbutt sneaked out from my grandparents' flat into the apartment building. My grandparents spent over 2 hours trying to find him, but couldn't, so they called me and asked to come over and help. When I came over, it was about 7 pm. I checked with the neighbours if anyone saw him, but they all declined. One of the neighbours didn't open the door, but I heard Fluffbutt meowing from their flat. I have tried knocking and ringing and could hear the neighbours talking behind the door and their lights were on, but they wouldn't open and just pretended nobody was home, when Fluffbutt would keep meowing as he was really scared. I knew the neighbours had my Fluffbutt. He has very specific meow, and not a lot of people in the apartment building had cats. So I waited till after midnight and went back downstairs and started ringing and knocking on the neighbours door to get my cat. The neighbour has finally opened the door and was about to have a go at me for waking them up that late at night, when Fluffbutt run out of the door at the full speed nearly knocking the neighbour over. I left as soon as my cat was free, found him next to my grandparents' door, and let him in. I have given him plenty of scratches and food with treats as he was clearly very stressed. I've also checked him to make sure he wasn't injured and found a lot of scratches on him (he scratches himself badly when he eats food with corn/cereal) and gave him some medication against his allergy. Early in the morning, the neighbours knocked on my grandparents' door, demanding "their" cat back as their child (f 10-12) was crying since she "found" him. I've told them to leave since Fluffbutt is our family cat, and not only did they try to steal him, but they also kept him against his will and caused an allergy to return. The neighbours said I had no right to ring them late at night and wake them up. I got too tired of this and closed the door in front of them as they wouldn't shut up. I'm now staying with my grandparents for a few days to make sure Fluffbutt is OK and the neighbours won't try to steal him again, however some of my grandparents neighbours called me an asshole for what I did. Aita? Edit: Fluffbutt has been microchipped for as long as he was with us, and we make sure the details are up to date. As per advice, I will also be contacting the police about the incident to make sure it is documented in case the neighbours try anything stupid again. Edit: [Cat tax](https://imgur.com/a/HegQJgo)

Clara Jensen
Neighbor Screamed That I Was Murdering A Tree So I Told Her Exactly What I Thought
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Neighbor Screamed That I Was Murdering A Tree So I Told Her Exactly What I Thought

So I was sent to remove a tree that was deemed hazardous by a state arborist. Upon arrival I was instantly bombarded by an adjacent property owner with questions as to what I was doing in the area (which happens all the time). I explained what my task was and why it was necessary “I’m here to remove this marked oak because of the massive rot hole at the base. The state arborist has marked it because it’s a hazard to the town park. If and when it falls it could seriously injure or kill someone because of its proximity to the playground.” The person then started by saying that they were never informed of the removal. I replied with that they were not informed because it doesn’t belong to them and that it was a matter of public safety blah blah blah. The person then got extremely angry and started yelling at me telling me how I was wrong and an evil person for murdering the tree. I replied “I’m sorry you feel that way but I still have to do what I was hired to do,I hope you have a nice day” It’s a pretty standard response that I use when being verbally assaulted and no longer wish to continue the pointless conversation. At this point they start yelling louder that they are going to call the police and mayor and their spouse is a lawyer and is going to have me arrested. I replied with that I have the legal documents and they can call whoever they need to but there is nothing that can be done to stop me from removing the hazard. They then actually call the police (who knew I was there and what I was to do because I was waiting on them to arrive for traffic control) they get off the phone furious and say that they think I’m the most evil person they have ever met and that I’m stupid for not seeing how healthy that tree is. At this point the conversation had gone on for about 20-30 minutes and I was well over being verbally berated so I said “ listen I’m going to tell you something that someone should have told you a long time ago. Your opinion doesn’t matter! You can sit there and say what ever you wish to but it’s not going to save this tree it’s a hazard and is coming down today regardless of what you think. Since you clearly know more about arbor culture than a state forester and myself an ISA certified arborist you should have gone to the meeting about it’s removal and stated your case but clearly you didn’t.” At this point the police arrived and I explained the situation they kept the angry person at bay so I could complete the job. So AITA for telling them their opinion doesn’t matter and being kind of a dick?

Luca Moretti
Brother-in-law Demands My Rental for Free During Peak Season and Now My Wife Is Furious
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Brother-in-law Demands My Rental for Free During Peak Season and Now My Wife Is Furious

I work full-time, but I have a couple of rental properties in a nearby tourist destination. I take a lot of pride in them and put a lot of work in to make them happen! They rent around $150/night. He’s visiting, and he wants to take his girlfriend to one of my properties. He asked if there was a “family rate” and I said that I could do $50 off so $100/night. He told me he was surprised that I was being so “cheap”. Now he’s pissed and he won’t talk to me or my wife. My wife is pressuring me to let him stay for free now. I told her “people ask me this all the time. If I gave every person who wanted to stay at my properties the place for free, why bother owning them?” She just said “well I only have one brother”. She also said that when my sister’s in town, we let her crash at our place, but I guess I don’t feel like that’s the same? I told her that I offered a discount but she says I’m just making this a bigger thing and she wishes I’d take the high road. Maybe I am cheap? AITA? Edit: some details that people keep asking for He asked for a week during the Christmas/NYE holidays. This Airbnb is in a ski town as well so it’s a big time for my business. We live about four hours away from the ski town and he is welcome to stay at our house, but I doubt he’s interested if what he wants is a ski trip.

Elise Dubois